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Your Erroneous Zones is a powerful book. Author Wayne W. Dyer*, a therapist, lays it on the line, showing you exactly how you’re benefiting from being untrue to yourself.
a life-changing book that shows you how to be true to yourself
Our friend read this book when it first came out in 1976 (!), when she was a teenager, and she was forever transformed by it. “You know how parents and teachers are always sarcastically telling you, ‘Oh, I guess you must be right then and everybody else is wrong?’ This book taught me that, yes, more often than not, everybody else was wrong. What a relief!”
It’s a seriously dysfunctional world, but with the insights in this book you can establish the habit of thinking outside that sheep-filled box and do yourself the vast favor of letting yourself be who you are. Dyer teaches you how to become an internally, rather than externally, controlled person.
As Dyer says:
This book outlines a pleasant approach to achieving happiness — an approach that relies on responsibility for and commitment to yourself, plus an appetite for living and a desire to be all that you choose to at this moment. It’s an uncomplicated approach, a common sense approach.
Each chapter of the book is designed as a counseling session focusing on a particular erroneous zone — an unhealthy behavior pattern. Here’s the table of contents:
Each behavior is explored from a cultural standpoint, helping you to understand how you came to be behaving this way. Specific examples of the behavior’s manifestation in everyday scenarios make what’s happening crystal clear. Then, Dyer helps you examine what you get out of the unhealthy behavior and why you keep doing it even though it’s bad for you. Finally, each chapter shares practical, straightforward strategies for fixing the problem.
Your Erroneous Zones is filled with practical, life-changing wisdom. It gives you encouragement — and the tools you need — to be yourself and respect yourself, in a world that doesn’t seem to want you to.
The need for approval of another person is bad enough, but the real trouble comes with the need for the approval of everyone for every act. If you carry around such a need, then you are bound for a great deal of misery and frustration in your life. Moreover, you will be incorporating a wishy-washy non-person self-image that will result in the kind of self-rejection that was discussed in the previous chapter.
The need for approval must go! No question marks here. It must be eradicated from your life if you are to gain personal fulfillment. Such need is a psychological dead end, with absolutely no benefits accruing to you….
When approval-seeking is a need, the possibilities for truth are all but wiped away. If you must be lauded, and you send out those kinds of signals, then no one can deal with you straight. Nor can you state with confidence what it is that you think and feel at any present moment of your life. Your self is sacrificed to the opinions and predilections of others.
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